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What I’ve Learned…

19 Jun

Warning: This blog might get a little cheesy for you on a Friday morning…I promise to return to wit and satire by Monday’s blog!

I’ve spent countless hours analyzing my dates, making light of the dating scene (or rather, making FUN of it,) playing relationship counselor to numerous friends, and (obviously) blogging about all of it.  While pondering this, it dawned upon me that there is a universal truth about relationships that I’ve learned through reflecting upon all these experiences and conversations.

In my (not so) humble opinion, the cornerstone of a really good relationship – be it a friendship or an “intimate relationship” – is twofold:

1.) Each person has to feel lucky to be with the other person.  If you can say to yourself, “Wow, I am so lucky to have this person in my life,” and they can say the same, you are in a great relationship.  Think about your best friends – have you ever thought, “I don’t know what I would do without this person?”

2.) You have to be vulnerable to each other.  Part of the BS about dating is that stage before you let down your guard.  You’re so scared to get hurt or have your pride damaged, that you won’t let someone get close enough to really know you.  In great relationships, you are completely vulnerable to the other person.

Again, think about your best friends – the ones that know your deepest, darkest secrets.  They know things about you, or have been through things with you, that you wouldn’t want anyone else in the world knowing.  But, you don’t doubt their loyalty for a second – you know they wouldn’t use that information against you, just like they know the same of you.

I’m not saying that a really great relationship consists of ONLY these two things; but I know that a relationship can’t flourish without them.